How Self-Talk is linked to Depression and Anxiety

Have you noticed what thoughts you have throughout the day? Are you aware of what you say to yourself? 

Self-talk is the conversations we have with ourselves day in and day out. It is what we say to ourselves about our experiences and who we are. Self-talk is also our inner voice and our internal monologue. It can include conscious thoughts or unconscious beliefs. 

Does your self-talk sound negative, pessimistic, critical, or belittling? Self-talk impacts the way we feel. If you think you are not enough, unlovable, unattractive, or believe you can't attain your goals; these thoughts will impact your mood and may be linked to your anxiety, stress, or depression. 

If you want to be optimistic, feel fulfilled, and feel emotionally balanced consider and practice the following concepts:


Start by monitoring your feelings, your thoughts, and then write them down. Some of your negative thoughts can be obvious, but sometimes the negative self-talk can be in the subconscious. Your feelings can be an excellent guide to figuring out what your thoughts were a few moments ago. If you are feeling crappy, sad, or anxious, ask yourself what you were thinking a few moments ago.


Thoughts are just thoughts. This means that your thoughts are just a thought unless you decide to make it real. For example, if you often think about your goals such as starting school, asking for a promotion, or starting your own business, unless you act, those goals will remain thoughts.

Thoughts are just thoughts, but they are powerful. At some point, you may have developed a story and dialogue of who you are and what you can't do, and this type of self-talk may be what’s stopping you from living the life you want.


The more you practice thinking positively about yourself, the more evidence your mind gathers information about how the positive way is a fact. Self-talk can be written, said, and thought.

Our brains attempt to compare the current situation to experiences from the past. If your mind treats the thought that you are "worthless" as a fact, it will take external information that fits that thought and ignore information that refutes that thought. But if you began to practice having thoughts that you are a wonderful, worthwhile individual, your mind will follow. 

Start by writing and gathering information about evidence that you are pretty enough, smart enough, accomplished, etc.

Don't feel defeated if this does not work immediately, the longer you have believed the negative thoughts about yourself, it can take a little longer to change your thought process. Just like losing weight is a process, changing your thought patterns from negative to positive is a worthwhile journey.